Rape and sexual assault are serious crimes of violence in which a person is forced into involuntary sexual contact by an assailant.
Almost all rape victims know their attacker. This is called "acquaintance" or "date" rape, and is most common to teenagers and young women. Rape is an act of violence. Rapists do not rape for sex, they rape to show control and vent anger. It may be hard to see someone you know a rapist, but remember:
Being forced to have sex - even with someone you know - is rape, and it is a crime.
The cooperation and involvement of students themselves in providing for their own safety is crucial.
Ny State Sex Offender Law
In order to obtain information regarding any sex offenders who might be employed by the College or be a student on campus, you may contact the New York State Division of Criminal Justice Services at their web site: http://criminaljustice.state.ny.us/nsor/ or you may call the sex offender registry information line at 1-800-262-3257.
Procedures For Reporting Sex Offenses Or Harassment
- Avoid isolated places when alone, or when going on first dates. For first dates, try to stay in well-lit, public places and double with another couple if possible.
- Trust your instincts. If you are uncomfortable with a situation, get away from it or speak up about it.
- Set limits for your relationship that you are comfortable with, and make sure that they are clear and acceptable to your partner. If your partner does not accept your limitations they should not be your partner.
- If your safety is in question, don't be polite - shout, honk the car horn, attract attention. DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED TO CAUSE A SCENE!!
- Do not accept rides from people you have just met, regardless of how friendly or harmless they seem.
- Use alcohol responsibly. Remember that having too much to drink can impair your judgment. Be suspicious of people who try to pressure you to drink more than you want.
- NEVER LEAVE YOUR DRINK UNATTENDED AT A PARTY OR BAR!!! (Drugs could be placed in it.)
- Be safety conscious at all times.
- Know your rights in a relationship, and know what constitutes sexual assault or rape. To see the definitions of sex offenses under NY State Penal Law, click here.
- In accordance with NY State law, you must be 21 years or older to drink.
If you feel uncomfortable in your interaction with faculty, staff or other member of the college community, you should report the grievance to one of the following:
- School of Arts & Sciences, School of Nursing, or Graduate School - Dean of your school
- School of New Resources - Campus Director
- Appropriate Student Services Officer (Residence Director, Director of Student Development and Programs)
- Director of Safety/Security
- Immediate supervisor
- Director of Human Resources
- Director of Safety/Security
Also, a person who has been the victim of a sex offense should notify one of the above who will then assist with making further notifications to the proper authorities. Follow the guidelines below.
Counseling And Support Services For Victims
- It is imperative not to shower or discard any clothing worn during the assault as the police department will need physical evidence to assist with their investigation. (Even if you are not planning to notify the police, follow this guideline - don't limit your options.)
- Remember that it is NOT your fault - you did not ask to be sexually assaulted, and you are not to blame.
During business hours:
Health Services, (914) 654-5311
Counseling Services, (914) 654-5562
Campus Ministry, (914) 654-5339
After regular business hours, the Residence Director on duty and Safety/Security Office will have emergency phone numbers.
Emergency Medical Services/Police, 911
New Rochelle Police, (914) 654-2300
Victims Assistance, (914) 345-3113
24-hour Assault Emergency Hotline, (914) 345-9111
Common Myths And Misconceptions About Rape
The following statements are not true, and contribute to the "Blame the Victim" mindset. Know your rights and be aware of your surroundings at all times.
Date Rape Drugs
- Women who wear seductive clothing deserve to be raped.
- Rape only happens to single women who aren't careful.
- Women are raped by strangers, in dark alleys.
- Only women with bad reputations are raped.
- Women secretly want to be raped
- When a woman says "no" she really means "yes".
- It's not rape if a woman doesn't resist.
- A woman can't be raped by someone she knows.
Date Rape drugs are substances that - most commonly - are added to a beverage to induce confusion, loss of control, or sedative effects in a victim. The person can then be taken advantage of, and may have little recollection of the events. The most common Date Rape drugs are Rohypnol (Roofies) and Gamma-hydroxybutyrate (GHB). Protect yourself by going out with a group of friends. Make an agreement that everyone leaves together, and keep an eye on each other. Above all, never leave your drink unattended!!